Don't apologize for not knowing something! Isn't that the point of learning. You don't know something, you read a book or a blog or listen to something, then you know! We all didn't know something once, then we learn it and we know it! Never apologize! Okay, back to the question...
There is a perception out there that frizzy hair is dry hair. Not so. Frizzy hair is a form of curly hair, and it can be normal, oily, or dry!
From the post Chemistry of your hair: Straight, curly, and frizzy hair: What's the deal with frizzy hair? Blame your genes! Your hair fibres roll themselves around the axis of the hair shaft, and there are different growth patterns around this axis, like with the curly girls. The frizziness comes out of the absorption of water in the endocuticle. It can absorb water from the atmosphere, which plumps up our hair strands. If you have hair with more disulphide bonds on one side or have hair that grows differently, you'll see frizziness there. But frizzy hair doesn't absorb water uniformly - again, you'll have more water on one side and less on the other, so you get that uneven look that leads to the frizzies! (The nice thing is we can deal with this issue with silicones and other anti-frizz products.)
Humectants draw water from the atmosphere to provide hydration, and that's the last thing we frizzy girls want! Keep anything humectant-y out of your products or keep them to a minimum. (You'll find butylene glycol in Incroquat BTMS-50 and panthenol is really great for all hair types, but otherwise stay away from things like hydrolyzed silk protein that can penetrate our hair shaft.)
Keep the water out to make sure we don't get the frizzies! There are a few options. We can use the silicones - dimethicone and cyclomethicone - to keep moisture from creeping into our hair. (Click here for my favourite recipe for an anti-frizz spray!) If you don't like silicones, you can try using some silicone alternatives, or oils. (If you're an oily haired person, oils aren't really your friends, but you can try them.)
Us frizzy types can benefit from using oils before washing. Coconut oil is always my first choice for pre-wash moisturizing thanks to the many studies that have shown it is awesome for our hair (and inexpensive, which is a bonus!). Melt, put on hair, enjoy smell, wash off. Easy peasy! Or you could include oils and butters in your conditioners. If you're an oily haired girl, go with the pre-wash oiling; dry haired girls can go nuts with pre-, during, or post-wash oils.
To answer your questions about the picture of me above - yes, I'm standing very strangely because I didn't want to drop the squirming goat; yes, my hair is pink in some places, and yes, that is the most adorable baby goat (or kid) you've ever seen. It was a pygmy baby goat, which is just slightly cuter than a regular goat! Check out the baby goat stampede video! I watch this every few days just to give me a huge smile and a laugh!
Related posts: Look in the hair care section of the blog for more information on conditioners, anti-frizz products, and using oils and silicones!